Create The Love

My good friend & literal lover rockstar, Mark Groves from @createthelove, invited me to respond to the following questions regarding love and relationships, so here you go, hope you enjoy and hopefully find some inspiration!

How do you create love in your life?

Love begins with oneself. I have always been a firm believer in truly getting to know myself and by doing so being then able to love all parts of myself. I once read, and now always say, that the most important relationship I will ever have in life will be with myself and I consciously work to making it the best relationship I’ll ever experience. By doing so, I know that I have the power (and necessity) to make myself whole and full of love, in order to then share and multiply that pure love to all aspects of my life, including friendships, creative professional life, and romantic relationships.

How do you fill yourself up?

Well I always start the day with silence, a tall glass of warm water, meditation, tea, and superfoods. I’ve learned over the years that it’s incredibly important to nourish my body in all aspects: mentally, spiritually, physically, creatively, and intellectually as much as I possibly can (because they’re all interconnected and can either positively or negatively influence each other). That being said, I also think its important to not put so much pressure on myself and to simply allow whatever that day’s efforts to be as they are meant to be.

Overall, always waking with gratitude, passion & determination, giving my most excellent self (never ever aiming for perfection cause it doesn’t exist and #aintnobodygottimeforthat), and going to bed satisfied with those days efforts whatever they were that day. I also love love love to interact with as many people I can throughout the day via smiles, conversations, and hugs. Hugs, hugs, hugs, they are my medicine and we can never have too many of them! Not too long ago I’ve begun to silently bless every person I come in contact with, wishing them well and that which they are searching for in that very moment in time.

What area do you struggle in relationships:

All types of relationships require conscious, mindful, respectful, and honest effort. I think the main thing anyone ever wonders about is that fine line of “Have I given it my all, exhausted all possibilities, and is it time to simply just surrender OR should I still continue to try?” Basically knowing when you’ve done all that you could to nurture and nourish the relationship and knowing when its time to surrender and simply let it go (since its purpose has been fulfilled).

I have found that deep down I always know the answer, my gut/true core knows, and all I have to do is listen to it. Then act on it (or not), which is the ultimate act of self-respect, self-love, and showing up for myself. One yoga teacher once told me, “Stop gripping and start trusting.” That is so powerful cause it is incredibly true. So now, as long as I am listening to my heart, acting through my soul, and being mindful of my evolution as a mind, body, spirit being then I trust everything will align itself, as it should – trusting the process.

Whats the best relationship advice you’ve ever received:

“If the love you are giving isn’t being reciprocated, it is not love worth giving nor receiving”

After my first real breakup a couple years ago I read this in a chapter by Deepak Chopra and it gave me such a heightened sense of clarity that I was able to just release that past. I instantly realized that the relationship had served its purpose, said my thank yous, and ‘twas time to move forward onto bigger and greater more fulfilling experiences and relationships in my life!

Another saying that further (visually) explains this is,

“Don’t plant seeds in a garden that isn’t being watered,”

and I’ve learned that. Because there are so many beautiful people out there that are willing to water all the seeds I plant in the garden, so much so that together we create a vast and infinite forest of love and abundance. I’ve released all the unnecessary in my life (and always doing so), making room for all the ones and experiences who now uplift, inspire, move, and nourish me. And so now, here I am today.

Bisous,

Mr. Renaissance


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